The Juggling Queen

She was young and soft-hearted like a flower. A sharp angry look could easily put her face to gloom. She was the princess at her abode. Often, she used to disappear into her own little world. She had a habit of day dreaming with her favourite playlists On. She loved grooming herself looking at the mirror. Some days she picked a vibrant nail colour out of her cosmetic shelf and painted her long beautiful nails. Her food menu was just a call away. The small kitchen table welcomed her with meals that she loved the most. She was up-to-date about the latest movies screened at the theatres. She loved her little local library where she would leisurely find her picks. At the parties, she flaunted her long luscious tresses.

A few years later…

At her new abode, the flower is busy juggling. She has become the master decision maker. She could not afford to be soft anymore. She has transformed herself from a flower to a tree trunk. She wakes up early with child alarms and face kicks. Not only did she become an expert cook, but she also learnt to bake. She is aware that cleaning the house is a never ending process. Her soft fingers had knife cuts & bandaids. The luscious hair ended up looking messy, the fashion clothes had stains of different colors. She was always the hot coffee machine, but seldom got to drink her coffee hot. She has become a better driver, thanks to the grocery shopping sprees and play dates. At night, she tried to recollect her favorite bedtime stories. She has now become an expert at juggling. She secretly wore her duties & accomplishments like sequences on her gown. The princess has become the Queen.

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Know your worth Ladies

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Hey friends,

My articles are usually women-centered because I feel that a woman’s life is a melange of diverse incidents, emotions, roles & changes, which brings about new topics to discuss almost everyday. The focus of this blog is about knowing the real worth of a woman. Now there are two parts to this – 1. a woman analyzing herself 2. society analyzing a woman. We will first introspect more about point 1 and later come to point 2.

Point 1: Many women have no clue what their real worth is! Women start their lives being daughters to their parents, then move on to become sisters, aunts, wives, mothers and grandmothers. As life progresses, they take up new responsibilities, change homes, evolve to become so-called mature individuals. The reality is that many of them assume themselves to have attained maturity, but are still a lot immature in their minds.  I’ve noticed that many parents don’t encourage the daughters to become independent. At a later stage, when the lady is left alone facing a critical issue in life, she feels like a weakling. I think beginning from childhood, girls should be given chances to tackle their own issues whenever possible. They should be able to realize that they are capable individuals and not dependent beings. This realization will help them build solid confidence moving forward.

On a similar context, there are a lot of women who go beyond their limits trying to win over the guys they have chosen. Sometimes they change themselves so much that they loose their own identity. However isn’t it true if I say, sensible men are only looking out for women who stick to their own true self. Why all this drama? Be yourself, you will find your man when its the right time without the need for any masquerades. If a man is attracted to a lady beyond the physical, then he will surely find ways to hold on, no matter what. And if you don’t find that someone, maybe its better you live single in your own good standards than settling in for less.

Now coming to point 2. Although many women believe that they are smart & capable, there are moments when they all breakdown emotionally while trying to cope up with situations around. Yes situations do affect women a lot. Many a times they tend to analyze their own worth by measuring the duties they perform, just as it is expected from the society. For example, a married woman is expected to perform the routine duties that includes cooking, child care, cleaning and so on. If the woman breaks free from this invisible cage of duties she is stamped irresponsible and selfish. In such cases, the woman herself feel that she is not of much value. So most often, a woman is being valued by her contributions to the family, but nothing else. If she steps out to make a difference in the system, then she is considered over smart. If she is not able to give birth to a child, she is made to feel ‘useless’. Are all women the same? If every woman is expected to be a carbon copy of the other, then why do they get educated at all?  I’v heard certain families demand that, the prospective bride should be well educated, but however she shouldn’t be highly career oriented. Well, ladies its your choice. Often many of you just keep all these feelings to yourselves and move on, hoping that someday things will get better. Apparently, things will not get any better unless you do something to come out of the negative zone.

Every woman should understand that, you are much more than dutiful wives, mothers to  children, caretakers for your folks, etc. You are yourself first and everything-else comes only after that. You are capable of something which others are not. Find your uniqueness, cherish it, share it with those who are true to you. Love yourself, be your own celebrity. Spend time with yourself, analyse yourself every day. If you think you need to get rid of a bad quality in you, work towards it. Ultimately, by knowing your true ‘worth’ you will not only learn to ‘move forward’ but will also learn to ‘let go’ of what you don’t really deserve.

Cheers.