Know your worth Ladies

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Hey friends,

My articles are usually women-centered because I feel that a woman’s life is a melange of diverse incidents, emotions, roles & changes, which brings about new topics to discuss almost everyday. The focus of this blog is about knowing the real worth of a woman. Now there are two parts to this – 1. a woman analyzing herself 2. society analyzing a woman. We will first introspect more about point 1 and later come to point 2.

Point 1: Many women have no clue what their real worth is! Women start their lives being daughters to their parents, then move on to become sisters, aunts, wives, mothers and grandmothers. As life progresses, they take up new responsibilities, change homes, evolve to become so-called mature individuals. The reality is that many of them assume themselves to have attained maturity, but are still a lot immature in their minds.  I’ve noticed that many parents don’t encourage the daughters to become independent. At a later stage, when the lady is left alone facing a critical issue in life, she feels like a weakling. I think beginning from childhood, girls should be given chances to tackle their own issues whenever possible. They should be able to realize that they are capable individuals and not dependent beings. This realization will help them build solid confidence moving forward.

On a similar context, there are a lot of women who go beyond their limits trying to win over the guys they have chosen. Sometimes they change themselves so much that they loose their own identity. However isn’t it true if I say, sensible men are only looking out for women who stick to their own true self. Why all this drama? Be yourself, you will find your man when its the right time without the need for any masquerades. If a man is attracted to a lady beyond the physical, then he will surely find ways to hold on, no matter what. And if you don’t find that someone, maybe its better you live single in your own good standards than settling in for less.

Now coming to point 2. Although many women believe that they are smart & capable, there are moments when they all breakdown emotionally while trying to cope up with situations around. Yes situations do affect women a lot. Many a times they tend to analyze their own worth by measuring the duties they perform, just as it is expected from the society. For example, a married woman is expected to perform the routine duties that includes cooking, child care, cleaning and so on. If the woman breaks free from this invisible cage of duties she is stamped irresponsible and selfish. In such cases, the woman herself feel that she is not of much value. So most often, a woman is being valued by her contributions to the family, but nothing else. If she steps out to make a difference in the system, then she is considered over smart. If she is not able to give birth to a child, she is made to feel ‘useless’. Are all women the same? If every woman is expected to be a carbon copy of the other, then why do they get educated at all?  I’v heard certain families demand that, the prospective bride should be well educated, but however she shouldn’t be highly career oriented. Well, ladies its your choice. Often many of you just keep all these feelings to yourselves and move on, hoping that someday things will get better. Apparently, things will not get any better unless you do something to come out of the negative zone.

Every woman should understand that, you are much more than dutiful wives, mothers to  children, caretakers for your folks, etc. You are yourself first and everything-else comes only after that. You are capable of something which others are not. Find your uniqueness, cherish it, share it with those who are true to you. Love yourself, be your own celebrity. Spend time with yourself, analyse yourself every day. If you think you need to get rid of a bad quality in you, work towards it. Ultimately, by knowing your true ‘worth’ you will not only learn to ‘move forward’ but will also learn to ‘let go’ of what you don’t really deserve.

Cheers.

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Evenings at the Crow Park

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Ever since the Crow park (CP) has been renovated, I go for evening walks there. The park isn’t like a usual place for me.. whenever I’m there, I feel an urge to scribble down what I see….The name is given by myself, as the park gives shelter to an abundant number of crows. At dusk, the black birds can be seen settling in on the tree tops with so much noise. The chances of getting blessings (droppings) from the birds are more during this time.

The plush green lawn in the park is surrounded by a neat paved walkway. A portion is developed into kids play area with slides and swings. Another portion is dedicated for exercise equipments. In the middle there is a new statue of a man standing on the earth, holding a creeper plant in hand… I guessed it meant something like ’embracing nature’. The park is huge when compared to other ones in our neighborhood. Hence I find the place comfortable for jogging.

After two rounds around the park, I stopped to take a breath. A lady who looked in her 60’s overtook me swiftly. She wore a salwar kameez and did slow jogging. Inspired by her spirit, I started off again for another round.

The crowd is less in the CP, which motivates me to sit back and relax after my walk/run. While I relaxed, I observe the people around briefly.. Today, a baby was sitting on the grass with her father, both of them having a good bonding time. A group of boys were busy playing some games. A few elderly people were taking their strolls along the walkway. Some determined house wives were working on the exercise machines.

I felt a kind of bonding with the strangers I met there. We were all equals, like from the same family..we came to the CP to shed off worries, improve health, cleanse the mind and be Happy. A solo bat flew across the sky, it looked as if it conveyed a silent message ‘I watch you all from above, thus I know you all’…

My iPod played a beautiful Hindi playlist. Suddenly my face had a smile, there was no reason for it..it was a smile, a simple gesture of happiness. After some stretches, I walked back home. On the way, I tried to smile at strangers crossing my way…they looked confused. I continued to smile.